Hero Thought – Service May 28, 2007Posted by Gerry Baron in Hero Moments, Hero Thought, Husbands are doing, Romance Leadership, Romantic Husband.
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My wife just completed her 1st year of biblical studies at our church’s ministry training center. One of the requirements of getting through the school was that she had to write several papers. The only problem was that she hates to type. She’s a 2 finger typist and it takes her forever to type anything.
At the start of the school year she told me that she wanted me to type her papers for her. My first reaction was “yeah, right.” After all, I wasn’t the one in school. What would it look like for me to type her papers. To me it felt like she was trying to get away with something. Besides, if she’s going through the program, she should do ALL the work.
The semester began and she asked me to type her paper. I gave her all my “good” reasons why I shouldn’t type the paper for her. Finally she convinced me to do it. I admit that I was quite reluctant to type the paper. This went on throughout the semester.
During the break, we were at a retreat weekend for one of the leadership teams we both participate on. My wife was talking to another leader who told her how her husband typed all her papers for her and also created her PowerPoint slides for presentations. This astonished me. You see her husband is in a PhD program for leadership while holding a senior project management role in a large architectural engineering firm, leading a small group at church, traveling to Africa to conduct leadership training twice a year, and raising a family.
Once the astonishment wore off, shame tried to set in. My workload was a fraction of my friend’s workload yet I complained when my wife asked for help and he did it willingly. I asked him how he was able to do it and he said something profound. He said “Helping my wife with her work is a small price to pay compared to everything she does for me and the family.”
This hit home. He was absolutely right. Although I had heard my pastor speak about the imperative for me to serve my wife and I read books that said the same thing, I had never really considered the magnitude of what she does for me and the family.
At that moment, my attitude toward serving her changed. Now it is a joy for me to do things that make her burden lighter because I appreciate all that she does to make my burden lighter.
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