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Why husbands don’t take out the trash October 3, 2007

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Man Taking Out Trash 

Finally there’s research that shows why husbands don’t take out the trash!  Here is an article I found on MSNBC.

 Take out the trash? Why husbands don’t listen

Psychologists offer insights into why husbands refuse to take out the trash

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Updated: 2:19 p.m. ET Feb 14, 2007

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NEW YORK – When a man fails to help out around the house, his poor performance might be related to a subconscious tendency to resist doing anything his wife wants, a new study suggests.

Men and women are sure to argue about this one. In fact, the man and woman who led the study disagree on the meaning of the results.

Psychologists have long known about “reactance,” the tendency to do the exact opposite of what’s requested by a loved one or boss. The new study aimed to find out whether the phenomenon might occur at a subconscious level.

Participants were asked to name a significant person they perceived as controlling their lives, and another who just wanted them to have fun. Then they were asked to discern words from jumbled letters on a computer screen while the names of the people they had mentioned were flashed subliminally.

The names were flashed too quickly to be registered consciously. Subjects performed better when exposed to the name of the person who wanted them to have fun than when exposed to the controlling individual’s name.

“Our participants were not even aware that they had been exposed to someone else’s name, yet that nonconscious exposure was enough to cause them to act in defiance of what their significant other would want them to do,” said Gavan Fitzsimons, a professor of marketing and psychology at Duke University.

Doing the opposite
Further testing found that study participants who were more reactant responded more strongly to the subliminal cues and had a wider performance gap.

“People with a tendency toward reactance may nonconsciously and quite unintentionally act in a counterproductive manner simply because they are trying to resist someone else’s encroachment on their freedom,” said Tanya Chartrand, also a professor of marketing and psychology at Duke.
Chartrand’s own experiences were the impetus for this study.

“My husband, while very charming in many ways, has an annoying tendency of doing exactly the opposite of what I would like him to do in many situations,” Chartrand said.

Oh, her husband? That would be Fitzsimons.

Chartrand said her husband “should now be better equipped to suppress his reactant tendencies.” But Fitzsimons said the results “suggest that reactance to significant others is so automatic that I can’t possibly be expected to control it if I don’t even know it’s happening.”

The findings related to this marital spat, announced this week, were published online by the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology.

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Radio Interview – Heinz Wegener, Cofounder of the Norcross Fellowship Luncheon October 2, 2007

Posted by Steve Worthy in Appreciation, Business Development, Manhood, Marriage, romance, Romance Leadership, Staying Married, Uncategorized.
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Heinz Wegener

Hello Everyone, join us this Tuesday, August 28th @ 9pm as we speak with Heinz Wegener, Cofounder of the Norcross Fellowship Luncheon. The Norcross Fellowship Luncheon (NFL) is a weekly luncheon that meets at 12:00 every Wednesday at the Golden Corral in Duluth, GA. The NFL’s mission is to provide a platform for Christian businessmen to share their story of how God has touched their lives both personally and professionally.

NFL Goals:

(1) Provide a platform for Christian businessmen to share their story of how God has touched their lives.

(2) Create an environment where anyone will feel comfortable and will receive encouragement and help in their search to find purpose in life.

(3)Highlight other activities and organizations that can provide Christian training and discipleship.

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Radio Interview – Phil Van Treuren, founder of Romance Tracker September 25, 2007

Posted by Steve Worthy in Entrepreneurship, Hero Moments, Husbands are doing, Manhood, Marriage, romance, Romance Leadership, Romantic Husband, Sex, Staying Married, Uncategorized.
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Phil Van Treuren

September 25th @ 9PM.

Join Gerry Baron & Steve Worthy as we discuss romantic ideas with Phil Van Treuren, founder of Romance Tracker.
http://www.romancetracker.com/

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Blog Talk Radio September 24, 2007

Posted by Steve Worthy in Appreciation, Blogroll, Manhood, Marriage, romance, Staying Married, Uncategorized.
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One of the largest and most powerful mediums used in communciation is the RADIO. There are a myriad of radio programs that span the gamit from sports to religion to politics. As many of you may already know we at By Husbands For Husbands have our own talk radio show that airs every Tuesday evening at 9PM called, you guessed it, “By Husbands For Husbands Talk Radio”. Our show offers news, views, and, interviews for men serious about becoming better husbands, fathers, and MEN.

Our show is hosted on Blog Talk Radio. We have been extremely pleased with their service. We are even more pleased to announce Blog Talk Radio has gone Social. BlogTalkRadio is the social radio network that allows users to connect quickly and directly with their audience. Their system offers free, live, call-in talk shows with unlimited participants that are automatically archived and made available as podcasts. No software download is required. Listeners can subscribe to shows via RSS into iTunes and other feed readers. Their network has produced tens of thousands of episodes since it launched in August of 2006.

Check out our new Home Page on Blog Talk Radio below – Click to see full picture. If you are a regular listener to our show, first we want to THANK YOU. Now we want to hear from you. You can sign up at Blog Talk Radio and become a – “HERO” – regular listener and provide us with instant feedback via chat or comments live while we’re doing the show. Its incredible and we welcome your feedback and input because that is what makes our show so popular.

Blog Talk Radio Page

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Guys, have you ever bought any of these? September 22, 2007

Posted by Steve Worthy in Appreciation, Getting Married, Husbands are doing, Manhood, Marriage, Marriage Jokes, romance, Staying Married, Things to do.
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Maxi Pads…

Have you ever purchased any of these for your wife?

I grew up in a large family, two older brothers and four sisters, where I was the youngest. So when I was of age, around 10, I was often sent to the store by my mother or my sisters. My mother typically wanted me to get eggs, milk, cereal or bread. My sisters sent me to the store for “PADS”. As a young boy, I had no idea what “PADS” were. My sisters would send me to the store with an old box of “PADS” that I could use as a benchmark. Now bear in mind I had no idea what these were used for..thus the funny looks as I stood in line to purchase them were puzzling.

Even once I realize what they were used for I didn’t immediately stop going to the store for my sisters. I simply asked the, bagger – as they snickered – to “Please Double or Triple bag these”. However, my sisters were immensely grateful that they had a brother that would put what little manhood – I was 10 – on the line to assist them in their time of need.

As a husband, I am often sent to the store. Now guys I’m sure you can relate or have been in this situation yourself; you are in line about to ring up the first item and you get a call from your wife and she says, “Can you get me some pads”. You begin to scream inside, “NNNNOOOOOOOO, not pads, anything but those”. You begin to think what if someone sees me in the “PAD AISLE”. This feeling of dread is felt by most men. But, I have a different perspective.

How does it make your wife feel when about you? My wife stated, “I really appreciate it when you do this for me, one I feel special and two, I know you are secure in your manhood when you buy them for me.” Guys, I can remember one day when I purchased some “PADS” the cashier made such a big deal about it. She told the other cashiers and the Store Manager (Female) standing within ear-shot, “I wish my husband would do this for me.” It’s the simple things within a marriage that make your wife feel special.

So go ahead, ask your wife if she needs any “PADS” and Go get em boys..

80/20 Rule – Too Much On Your Plate… September 20, 2007

Posted by Steve Worthy in Business Development, Entrepreneurship, Getting Married, Manhood, Marriage, Staying Married, Uncategorized.
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Juggling Act…

So how many things do you have on plate today. Some times our lives are a juggling act and we do not know how to prioritze our lives. So in this blog I wanted to introduce a short principle that I’ve used numerous times in my professional life and have begun implementing in my personal life.

    PARETO PRINCIPLE

The Pareto principle (also known as the 80-20 rule, the law of the vital few and the principle of factor sparsity) states that, for many events, 80% of the effects comes from 20% of the causes. Business management thinker Joseph M. Juran suggested the principle and named it after Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto, who observed that 80% of income in Italy went to 20% of the population. It is a common rule of thumb in business; e.g., “80% of your sales comes from 20% of your clients.”

The original observation was in connection with income and wealth. Pareto noticed that 80% of Italy’s wealth was owned by 20% of the population. He then carried out surveys on a variety of other countries and found to his surprise that a similar distribution applied.

It also applies to a variety of more mundane matters: we wear our 20% most favoured clothes about 80% of the time, we spend 80% of the time with 20% of our acquaintances etc.

So if you have a list of ten (10) things to do the top two (2) should be your true focus. In accomplishing these, based on the rule, you inherently fulfill a good portion of the remaining eight (8). So try it and let me know how it works.

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle

Radio Interview – Bryan Davidson – Founder – SPIRITUAL Innovations September 18, 2007

Posted by Steve Worthy in Appreciation, Communicating, Hero Moments, Marriage, Romance Leadership, Staying Married, Uncategorized.
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Bryan Davidson

September 18th @ 9PM – Bryan Davison, Founder SPIRITUAL Innovations

Join us as Steve and Gerry chat with Bryan Davidson about the spiritual conversations that husbands should have with their wives and their children.

Bryan Davidson, a catalytic leader, thinker and writer, is a ministry entrepreneur, and spiritual conveyor. He is fascinated with the enormous potential for a new spiritual awakening in this generation. Led by the desire to boldly wade the sea of cultures, including the Post-modern and Post-Christian culture, he wants to see the world experience revolutionary change.

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