When is the right time? – Pt I. July 30, 2007
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Gerry and I have often been asked the following question, “Hey guys, is there every a good time to give your wife bad news?” In our experience, having had to disseminate bad news in our own marriages, we would say “THERE IS NEVER A GOOD TIME.”
For example, as an entrepreneur, your pay cycle is “Whenever your client’s cash flow is in order’, right or the sales cycle on a big deal takes longer than usual.
As a guy, you did something really stupid, like look at Porn on the family computer and your kids almost viewed some of the pictures. Or you had an affair with another woman.
Now comes the time when you have to tell your wife that your finances will be a little tight, or the dreaded, “Honey, I have to tell you something”. First, why do we say honey, as if it will soften the blow? Second, this statement immediately sends chills up your wife’s spine. It would do the same to you.
So what do we do, when we have to give our wife some bad news?
First let’s define – Bad News. Guys, hopefully you know your wife and her threshold to issues. The scale is from 1 to 10, with 10 being a great threshold for bad news and 1 being a low threshold. Please get a better understanding of this issue first.
Second, you have to realize that no matter how strong (emotionally) you think your wife is, she is not. Most women still have that little girl inside of them, that’s needs to be protected, that needs emotional security that longs for affirmation from a male figure. So, please understand that armor of strength from your wife is a façade. She is not the callous, insensitive, uncaring person you think she is. I know some of you are saying, “Steve, you’ve never met my wife.”
Steps 3 & 4 tomorrow stay tuned…
10 Romance Ideas.. July 28, 2007
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Here you guys, these are free of charge use them wisely and have fun with it. You can always take these ideas and put your own spin on them.
1. Touch
Touch your spouse lovingly at least five times a day. Kissing, hugging, and hand-holding are all healthy touch points. Try to make each touch point meaningful, letting your spouse know that he or she is in your thoughts every day.
2. Talk
The average couple talks only four minutes a day. It’s no wonder spouses don’t feel close and loved. Four days a week, plan at least 45 minutes when you can be alone together and do something you both enjoy. These aren’t times to talk about problems, but rather to increase your easy-going time together.
3. Date
One night a week, come hell or high water, you and your spouse should go out alone to enjoy each other’s company. You can do anything, go anywhere, and talk about anything except three things: money, children, and work (unless it’s exciting stuff – for example, I got a promotion).
4. Have a honeymoon night
At least once a month, plan a fabulous night of romance and lovemaking. Plan the details: a wonderful meal; a fun time out on a date; a romantic movie – anything that screams ‘romance’ to you. Make this the recharging night that will advance your relationship beyond words.
5. Bring her flowers that remind you of her and write her a poem, celebrating her.
6. Surprise her with romantic dinner out – don’t tell her where you are going.
7. Take her dancing and treat her as if it’s your first date.
8. Fill the house (or just the bedroom) with candles and flowers, and spend the whole evening along with her.
9. Spend an hour at sunset telling her what you cherish about her and how she adds to your life.
10. Leave a note under her windshield wiper at work.
By Husbands For Husbands – Interview… July 26, 2007
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Please don’t miss this interview with Kristina Tomaz – Young of VC-TV.
VCTV is proud to feature:
… provocative conversations with start-ups that not everyone knows about, but ideally should (!),
… frank chats with smart idea backers (venture caps, angel investors and advisors) with impressive batting records who help finance and coach the start-ups,
… wise wisdom from biz gurus (leaders of successful start-ups, whose bold ideas and strategic actions propelled their relentless, high performing companies forward)
Radio Interview – Keenan Nix – Nix and Graddock P.C. July 24, 2007
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Come Join us this Tuesday evening @ 9PM as we speak with Keenan Nix, Managing Partner of Nix & Graddock P.C, located in Metro Atlanta, GA. We will be talking about Family, Faith, Marriage and Manhood in America. You don’t want to miss this show.
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Feature Interview… July 23, 2007
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Hello everyone, we at By Husbands for Husbands want you check out an awesome five part interview of our company.
Kristina Tomaz-Young is founder of VCTV – Venture Cap TV where they connect exciting start-ups on the rise with solid investors. The interview is a five part series. Its a must read as we have provided some solid insight into our concept and its future plans for growth and expansion.
Radio Interview – Camy Arnett – BYOBB July 17, 2007
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Come Join us this Tuesday evening @ 9PM as we speak with Camy Arnett, President of BYOBB (Bring Your Own Bible Baby), located in Atlanta, GA. We will be talking about Family, Faith, Marriage and Manhood in America. You don’t want to miss this show.
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Humility… July 12, 2007
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How many of you husbands and guys in general struggle with HUMILITY? I reason a guess of 70% or so of our readers, members and men in general struggle with it. What is humility? Some dictionaries call it the quality of being modest and respectful. That’s a good definition, however here is my own.
Humility the quality and willingness to give up your position for that of another person’s. Most men associate humility with weakness and being a coward. Why? As boys we are taught not to cry be strong, not to give in and not to give up, win at all cost, stay strong, stand your ground, be firm, don’t give in or give up, (You know that GI Joe type of stuff – I’m showing my age here). As men we have ingrained these positions in our persona. We have been living them out for years and years and when we are told you are prideful and lack humility, we can’t relate.
The other day my wife and I got in a discussion and I bowed up in PRIDE and refused to take her assistance on something. I could have easily taken a different position, but I stood firm and strong. However, the entire time, I knew I needed her assistance with this problem. So what happen, I had to go back and admit my PRIDE and lack of humility in this situation.
Why couldn’t I have done that the first time? Now in most cases, I’m quick to admit my inadequacies, but in this situation I could not bring myself to do so for a few days. I let the pride fester and grow, until I came to a place of humility, in my prayer time, where I was showed by GOD my pride and lack of humility. So what do I do? I had to go to my wife and apologize and HUMBLE myself and let her know that I needed her help. The real issue, it should not have taken me that long.
It’s a process to develop humility and most guys have not even started. If you want to win with your wife, with your children, with your colleagues, try some humility from time to time. As men, we don’t have all the answers and we need the assistance of other people to see the errors of our ways. Once again, humility is the quality and willingness give up your position for that of another person’s.
The lack of humility in your life ties your hands, where you are not able to receive the needed assistance from your spouse and others.
Are you ready to try some humility on for size, what’s your size – You Look Like a Large 
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