Comments on: Marriage Expiration… http://byhusbandsforhusbands.wordpress.com/2007/06/08/marriage-expiration/ Helping Husbands Become Heroes! Wed, 16 Jan 2008 23:52:41 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Bob Smith http://byhusbandsforhusbands.wordpress.com/2007/06/08/marriage-expiration/#comment-482 Bob Smith Sun, 23 Sep 2007 23:57:30 +0000 http://byhusbandsforhusbands.wordpress.com/2007/06/08/marriage-expiration/#comment-482 Interesting concept. Might take a couple generations for it to really transition from the traditional indoctrination of today's society. What's the problem? If you're happily married then just renew it. I'm not sure a test would work, though. There's enough uneducated people who can barely vote much less write a 500 word essay on why they should stay married. Married folks would be a minority for sure. Some might think this may make folks take marriage for granted. If anything, it might remind each other (husband & wife) to be good to each other or else. Otherwise, if one or the other has gradually become unpleasant to be with, then you're kinda stuck; unless a divorce is considered. If it's not renewed, then so be it. Each goes their own separate ways and starts a new chapter in their lives. Divorcees do it all the time, usually at a costly price (not just financial). An expired marriage license could simplify the process to help each move on without being disgruntled couples trying to pull power-plays on each other before the deed is done. Interesting concept. Might take a couple generations for it to really transition from the traditional indoctrination of today’s society.

What’s the problem? If you’re happily married then just renew it. I’m not sure a test would work, though. There’s enough uneducated people who can barely vote much less write a 500 word essay on why they should stay married. Married folks would be a minority for sure.

Some might think this may make folks take marriage for granted. If anything, it might remind each other (husband & wife) to be good to each other or else. Otherwise, if one or the other has gradually become unpleasant to be with, then you’re kinda stuck; unless a divorce is considered.

If it’s not renewed, then so be it. Each goes their own separate ways and starts a new chapter in their lives. Divorcees do it all the time, usually at a costly price (not just financial).

An expired marriage license could simplify the process to help each move on without being disgruntled couples trying to pull power-plays on each other before the deed is done.

]]> By: Gerry Baron http://byhusbandsforhusbands.wordpress.com/2007/06/08/marriage-expiration/#comment-71 Gerry Baron Sat, 09 Jun 2007 13:13:31 +0000 http://byhusbandsforhusbands.wordpress.com/2007/06/08/marriage-expiration/#comment-71 What a great question! In this society of convenience where marriage is taken so lightly, there would probably be loads of people who would be more than happy to allow their license to lapse and expire. However, the real question is if they had to take a test to renew it, would they pass? One of the biggest contributors to marital stress is the focus on the other person. In "Radical Love", the workshop founded by our upcoming guest, Tony Moore, we are taught that "our spouse is not our problem". <em>(Listen to this segment on on Tuesday June 12 at 9:00 PM @ www.blogtalkradio.com/byhusbandsforhusbands)</em>. The tendency is to point out all the things that they are not doing. How different could things be if marriage partners were willing to examine themselves first and work on those things in themselves that are problems? What a great question! In this society of convenience where marriage is taken so lightly, there would probably be loads of people who would be more than happy to allow their license to lapse and expire. However, the real question is if they had to take a test to renew it, would they pass?
One of the biggest contributors to marital stress is the focus on the other person. In “Radical Love”, the workshop founded by our upcoming guest, Tony Moore, we are taught that “our spouse is not our problem”. <em>(Listen to this segment on on Tuesday June 12 at 9:00 PM @ http://www.blogtalkradio.com/byhusbandsforhusbands)</em>. The tendency is to point out all the things that they are not doing.
How different could things be if marriage partners were willing to examine themselves first and work on those things in themselves that are problems?

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