Husbands – Are you tough enough – to Stay??? May 23, 2007
Posted by Steve Worthy in Husbands are doing, Marriage, Romance Leadership, Staying Married.1 comment so far
On our Tuesday (May 15th) evening show, Gerry did a solo show that discussed his marital path and all of the bumps and bruised he experienced in the process. Now Gerry would probably call them something different, but in marriage and love we do experience some growing pains. When I was getting married a good buddy told me, “Marriage it going to turn you into something you have never been before, a Husband.” These words never really dawned on me until about my third year of marriage. These words resonated with me. I realized that, I have six siblings and will always be a brother and we will alway be a son to our parents, right. But, a husband is something that is totally unfamiliar to most of us.
What’s the big deal? You say I do and that’s it right. On the Contrary, that is only the beginning. Marriage is a path and a journey of personal, character and emotional refinement. During, Gerry’s solo radio show, he had a interesting caller. As Gerry was discussing his marital path and some of the surrounding issues that shaped his decision to remain married and even start a business such as By Husbands For Husbands, the caller felt that Gerry should have just removed himself from the marriage. Basically, he felt Gerry should have fleed.
Why is this most normal reaction for men? When something dramatic happens in our marriage, our immediate response it to leave. Now, the normal emotional reaction is disappointment, betrayal, anger, and in some cases “revenge”, i.e. I will do the same thing to you. Now, let me preface by saying, I too use to possess this “fleeing” mentality. So I know all to well the thoughts that run through our mind. Why do men flee from emotionally testing situations? I have provided four reasons why men flee in various situations:
(1) Fleeing does not require any work. Its easy for me to pack up my stuff, get another home and start fresh.
(2) Fleeing does not require introspection.
(3) Fleeing allows us to relinquish responsiblity.
(4) Fleeing disconnects us emotionally.
Over the next few weeks, I will discuss these in more detail. Please provide you comments…
Radio Show – Interview – Rob Consoli May 22, 2007
Posted by Steve Worthy in Hero Moments, Husbands are doing, Marriage, Staying Married.add a comment
What does unconditional love mean to you? Is love ever convenient? What would you do if your spouse had a terminal disease? How would you handle it? Would it tear your family apart?
Join Steve and Gerry as they interview Rob Consoli, VP of Sales at Visiprise on their weekly Radio Talk show. Click below:
Hero Thought – Forgiveness May 21, 2007
Posted by Gerry Baron in Hero Moments, Hero Thought, Husbands are doing, Romance Leadership, Romantic Husband.add a comment
Forgiveness is such a powerful force. My wife and I will be married 20 years this August. Because of a mistake that was made very early in our marriage, most of those years were strained. Each of us harbored unforgiveness towards the other that blocked the flow of love and intimacy.
Sure we were Christians but all that meant was that we knew how to keep up the facade. Deep down we were 2 hurting people that became skilled at hurting the other in a vain attempt to protect ourselves.
My being self-employed the last 4 years brought many of these issues to the surface. With the safety net of an executive salary stripped away and our finances dwindling, the deep seated resentment and bitterness easily found their way to the surface of our relationship. Many harsh words were exchanged.
However, through counseling and the support of good friends, we both came to an understanding of the power of forgiveness. We learned that a heart full of unforgiveness was like a clenched fist. The fist is a powerful force while it’s closed. It serves as a great defensive weapon. Unfortunately because the fingers are balled up, the fist is unable to receive anything. Likewise the heart of unforgiveness protects itself from hurt while it also blocks out any love that comes its way.
We both determined to work through our issues of unforgiveness. I am happy to say that we both agree that we’ve gotten over the hump. All the old wounds and hurts have been buried. We have released each other and now the love is flowing freely.
Watch the video: Hero Thought – Forgiveness
Romance On A Stationary Bike… May 16, 2007
Posted by Steve Worthy in Romance Leadership, Romantic Husband, Things to do, romance.add a comment
I know this title seems weird, but it’s very relevant to today’s blog. But I have a question, can you spend 96 hours straight alone with your wife or husbands riding a bike.
The article sparked something in me. I began to think of the longest amount of time my wife and spent together. I mean together; no kids, no breaks, no work, no one leaving to go to the store. I can only come up with 72 hours on our vacation in Florida.
In reading the article, the couple rode a stationary bike for 96 hours straight hours, with little breaks here and there, to break the Guinness Book of World Records. I was inspired. Why?
My wife and I just began to exercise with each other again. We spend 1 hour a day together, just us; no kids, no phones (except the one time, I answered the phone to talk to Gerry – I create a “Anti-Hero Moment”)
So it got me thinking.
When was the last time you and your spouse spend quality time together. More than 1 hour.
Do you think you can spend 96 straight hours with your spouse?
If so, Why…If no, why not.
By Husbands For Husband – Radio Interview May 14, 2007
Posted by Steve Worthy in Books, Date Night, Romance Leadership, Things to do.add a comment
Listen to Gerry and Steve as they are interviewed by one BlogTalkRadio’s most popular radio host, Ms. Blue. They will be discussing the By Husbands For Husbands concept, our upcoming book and provide tips on how Husbands can Become Heroes.
Monday May 14, @ 9PM EST
Hero Thought – Simple May 14, 2007
Posted by Gerry Baron in Appreciation, Hero Moments, Hero Thought, Romance Leadership, Romantic Husband, romance.add a comment
Romance is simple. We don’t have to exert much energy or do much to touch our wife’s heart. The reason many husbands never get very far with romance is that they turn romance into something elaborate that is difficult to sustain. Sure, our wife is happy for the moment but she also wonders whether you have what it takes to keep it up or if it’s a 1 time event.
Keep it simple. Look for little things thatyou can do that say ”I love you” to your wife. Something that I did once was to make her a bouquet of roses. I bought a sheet of pink tissue paper (the kind that is used to stuff gift bags) and a few green pipe cleaners from Wal*Mart. I rolled the tissue paper to make it look like a rose bud. The pipe cleaners served as the rose stems. I put the bouquet on a gift to my wife. She absolutely loved it.
To illustrate the power of a simple gift, the day that I took the pictures for this blog, I happened to take the bouquet and put it in a vase so that I would remember to take the pictures when I got home from work. I called my wife to see how her day was going and I could tell that she was in a great mood when she answered. I asked her what was going on and she proceeded to thank me for the lovely flowers! What a hoot! I got romance points because she thought that this was a new bouquet.
Watch the video: Hero Thought – Simple
Go Fly A Kite!! – Happy Mothers Day May 13, 2007
Posted by Steve Worthy in Hero Moments, Husbands are doing, Romance Leadership, Romantic Husband, Things to do, Uncategorized.add a comment
First, we at By Husbands For Husbands want to wish all the Mothers a Happy Mother’s Day. Since, it is Mother’s Day; I want to let you know what I and kids did for my wife.
• Thursday – Purchased something simple, yet special for my wife.
• Friday – Purchased a Picnic Basket for Sunday
• Saturday – Purchased a nice blanket and finger food for the picnic.
• Sunday
• 6AM – Arouse and went out to get her Favorite – Grande – Caramel Macchiato from our neighborhood Starbucks
• 6:25 AM – Purchased
o Simply Bouquet
o Some sausage, bagels and eggs to prepare her a wonderful breakfast
o Sunday Newspaper
o Filled her vehicle up with gas
o Two Kites
• 6:50 AM – Arrived back home and finalized the Mother’s Day cards with the girls.
• 7 AM – Finalized a slideshow full of pictures that relate to Motherhood. Also, included some pictures of her mother (We lost my wife’s mother to pancreatic cancer a few years, so this time of year is hard for her)
• 8 AM – Wife arouse and I began to prepare breakfast. As she went into the bathroom, the girls and I stood outside the door. When she opened the door we all screamed Happy Mother’s Day and presented her with her Flowers, Cards and Gifts.
o My Wife opened the gifts and absolutely loved everything.
• 8:20 AM – The breakfast preparation was complete and she decided to eat at the kitchen table instead of the bed
• 8:35 AM – We watched the SlideShow I prepared and she began to cry.
• 8:50 AM – We finished off the last of the bagels and commenced to read the paper.
• 9:30 AM – As a family we decided to walk Chronicles of Narnia. My wife loved it; we just spent some quality family time.
• 12:30 PM – I finished packing the picnic basket I purchased on Friday with grapes, napkins, chips, and I packed a small cooler full of water.
• 12: 45 PM – I packed the van and we were on our way.
o I stopped by the supermarket to purchase some picnic sandwiches
• 1:15 PM – We arrived at the park. The very first thing we did was put together the kites. It was great and my wife was totally in to it. She loved the idea of flying kites and was running through the park with the kites trying to get lift-off, like a little girl, with my daughters watching her.
• 1:50 PM – We ate lunch as a family and Blessed God for giving us such a wonderful wife and mom.
• 2:15 PM – We played with the kites some more and kicked the soccer ball around.
• 3:45 PM – We finished our afternoon off with some Ice Cream from Bruster’s my wife’s favorite.
Happy Mother’s Day. God Bless…
