Creative Love Letter Ideas – Part I March 27, 2007
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An Audio Tape Love Letter
Send your wife an audio cassette tape with a love letter written in gold pen on the magnetic tape. Put a tab on the end of the tape that says “pull me” so that she knows to pull out the tape to start reading the letter.
Message In A Bottle
Write your wife a love letter and put it in a bottle. Mail the bottle to her.
Secret Admirer
Pretend to be your wife’s secret admirer. Type a glorious infatuation letter to conceal your handwriting. Try to make sure there are no tips to give you away, but put hints in it that would make her think it might be somebody else she knows. Use things you might know about her job, or places she might go, but things other people can also know. Sign it Your Secret Admirer, and send it to her by mail. Send flowers, candy, poetry, and anything else you can think of anonymously. Do this for a week or even as long as a month before letting her know that you are her secret admirer.
A Treasure Hunt
Set up a treasure hunt to have your wife go around the house finding “clues” to the location of a love letter. Hide clues in the cookie jar, ice cream container, under her pillow, in the bathroom, on the tv, in her dresser, in her shoes, and so on. The last clue leads her to the location of the love letter.
A Single Rose Love Letter
Purchase a rose and pluck off some of the petals. On each petal you pluck off, attach a 1 sentence note to your wife telling her how much she means to you. Placed the rose and the petals with the notes face down in a box that you present to her.
Say it with their name
Send your wife as many roses as the number of letters in her name. With each rose, write a message starting with the first letter of their name. Underline the first letter of every message.
Another Message in a Bottle
The next time you surprise your wife with a bubble bath, write a love letter, stick it in a bottle, cork it, and float it in the bath water.
Refrigerator Love Notes
Buy magnetic letters and use them to write your wife a love note on the refrigerator.
Love Note on the Mirror
Use a soap bar and write your romantic message on the bathroom mirror. It won’t do damage to mirror and is easy to get off with a little water.
Book of Love
Write a letter about each of the things that you love about your wife and how much she means to you. Put all the letters together into a little book and give it to her on a special occasion.
A Note A Day
When your wife goes away for vacation or a short trip, write a love letter on a separate page of a pink colored notepad for each day that she’s gone.
What I learned about marriage through ballroom dancing. March 26, 2007
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A few years ago, my wife and I took ballroom dancing. For years she had been telling me that this was one of her desires so I finally decided to do something about it. We went to a Fred Astaire school for some introductory classes.
Right away they taught us the roles of the man and the woman in a dance. The man leads and the woman follows. Since the woman is often moving backwards, she depends on the man to lead her in the right direction.
The man leads his partner. His job is to make his partner look good while they dance. He keeps a vigilant eye on his surroundings to make sure that he does not lead them into another couple while they are moving across the dance floor. A failure on his part to let his partner know which direction she should move can quickly lead to a kick on the shin, stomped toes, or an embarrassing fall.
The woman follows her partner. She has to completely trust him. Inside she has to fight the urge to protect herself as she depends on him to guide her safely and majestically across the dance floor. When he makes a mistake, she follows him even though she knows the right way to do it. Her cardinal rule is to make sure they appear in unison regardless of what he’s doing.
When a man fails to lead his partner or a woman fails to follow her partner, there is utter chaos on the dance floor. To the observer, the pair appear spastic as they work against each other instead of working in harmony.
What does it take for this arrangement to work?
The man must be trustworthy. He has to instill confidence in his partner that he will not lead them wrong. She has to know beyond the shadow of a doubt that he knows how to make them look good. A man who is trustworthy is a man whose partner is willing to take a chance with.
The man must be prepared. He has to know which dances go with which style of music. How foolish the couple would look if they dance the tango to waltz music. The more prepared the man, the less likely the woman will have the urge to lead.
The man must lead. He has to take control of the movements of the couple. If he hesitates at all, he signals to the woman that he doesn’t know what he’s doing. This makes the temptation for her to lead too great.
The man must protect his partner. He makes sure that his partner does not run into anyone else as they gracefully glide across the dance floor.
These characteristics are also critical in the marriage relationships. As husbands, we must be trustworthy and prepared leaders and protectors. We bear the responsibility if we have not developed ourselves to the point that our wives can trust us, know that we’re taking care of business for the household, see us leading in every situation, and are confident that we have their best interests at heart.
How are you doing as you lead your marriage through the waltz and tango of life?
Deadly “diggity” March 25, 2007
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We think we have it rough with our wives. After you read about the blanket octopus, you’ll count your blessings.
Male octopus is a sucker for big girls who kill him after sex
The male blanket octopus faces a significant gender imbalance – he is just two centimetres long, while the female of the species can measure up to two metres.
And as if being 100 times smaller than his mate wasn’t bad enough, he dies right after having sex with her.
A senior curator at the Melbourne Museum, Mark Norman, who recently found a living specimen on the Great Barrier Reef, said that until now the male had only been discovered dead in trawls and plankton nets.
His achievement in capturing and photographing a live one has been documented in a recent paper for the New Zealand Journal of Marine and Freshwater Research.
According to the article, the male blanket octopus is, technically speaking, “the most extreme example of sexual size-dimorphism in a non-microscopic animal … such dimorphism is not seen in any other animal remotely as large”.
Dr Norman said: “There’s no other critters on that scale that have such a significant difference between the male and female.”
The two-metre female weighs at least 10,000 times as much as the male, sometimes up to 40,000 times as much.
This could make the question of position rather delicate, but as it turns out it doesn’t matter. The male, it seems, relies on its arm as much as its penis to have sex.
This reproductive arm, known as a hectocotylus, is tucked away in a white spherical pouch between its other arms. When males mate, the pouch ruptures, the penis injects sperm into the tip of the arm, the arm is severed, and passed to the female.
It stays there until used to fertilise the female’s eggs, which can be weeks later.
And while the human post-orgasm is sometimes referred to as “the little death”, for the male blanket octopus the term takes on literal meaning. The male dies, but the female carries on, free to have sex with more males.
“It’s kamikaze sex, effectively,” said Dr Norman. “They’ve found females with up to six male arms in the gill cavity.”
But how did it get that way? Males compete with each other to fertilise the female, explained Dr Norman. Being small allows the male to mature earlier, and allows for better protection using its tentacle segments.
Let’s be glad that we don’t have the same challenges as this creature:
- His woman is waaaaay bigger than he is.
- He dies after he gets some the 1st time.
Submit. Obey. To you. Are you joking? March 24, 2007
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The inclusion of the words “submit” or ”obey” in marriage vows can get the 21st century woman riled up quicker than just about anything else. Within the context of the marriage vows, these words are viewed by many women as symbols of male chauvinism and machismo. I believe that extreme feminism is to blame for this. Feminists equate submission with inferiority and docility.
By contrast, the Bible tells us that husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her (Ephesians 5:25-29) and to prefer their wives above themselves (I Peter 3:7). It also tells wives to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22-24).
So if the Bible represents God’s perfect plan for marriage, why is there resistance from wives to submit to their husbands, and what part do husbands play in creating that situation?
No one wants to submit or obey to someone that does not have their best interests at heart. Part of the mandate that God gives the husband is to selfishly be a steward of his wife. The husband is commanded to sanctify and cleanse his wife so that he might present her without blemish. For some husbands, this means that he has a license to point out his wife’s weaknesses each and every time they rear their ugly heads. For others, it justifies his contempt or mistreatment of his wife because she has been found lacking in his eyes. Both of these responses are excellent fertilizer for the seed of rebellion which defies submission.
I heard a speaker say that wives want to submit to their husbands because it’s safer for them. This made me examine how I was making it difficult for my wife to submit to me. One by one I identified then dealt with the things I did that made her resist submission:
1) Pride that prevented me from admitting my mistakes;
2) Selfishness that blinded me to her needs;
3) Contempt that blocked grace from flowing from me to her;
As I have been taking deliberate steps to eliminate these behaviors, my wife has slowly become more submissive.
What is it in your life that you have to examine and deal with?
Appreciating her differences March 23, 2007
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An article in the BBC, “What are the 78 differences between women and men?”, tries to explain the genetic differences between the sexes. Here’s an example of what they came up with when they polled both men and women…
Women understand colour. They seem to know what to wear all the time. Men just think red is nice, pink is nice, so why not have them together?
Jeremy Vine – BBC
Women have the Oh dear, the toilet paper is on its last sheet; must replace it immediately gene. This is entirely absent in men who have the Oh no! Can you pass me a toilet roll, love? gene!
Jenni Murray – BBC
Read the full article – “What are the 78 differences between women and men?”
There’s no question that men and women are different. Early in my marriage, I used to get frustrated at my wife because I did not understand the differences. For example, my wife has a knack of reading people very quickly. She can meet someone and within the first five minutes decide whether she likes them or not. I, on the other hand, like everyone when I first meet them unless they do something to change my mind.
So how do you think I would react when she would say to me “I don’t like him.” or “there’s something about her that bothers me”? I would get so irritated at her. “How can you judge someone so quickly?” I would ask before emphatically stating “You don’t even KNOW them!”. Her response would be to get angry and say that I was not respecting her opinion (which I wasn’t). Guess what, 9 times out of 10, time would prove that her instincts were RIGHT, and I would have to eat my words.
It took me many years to learn my lesson. In a marriage class I was taking, Radical Love, the facilitator explained the meaning of my wife being my helper (Genesis 2:18). He said that my wife had 2 groups of skills and abilities that God placed in her. One group were things that He put in her so that she could fulfill the purpose He has for her. The other group were things He put in her so that I could fulfill the purpose He has for me.
Since God’s plan is for husband and wife to become one, what the facilitator said made sense to me. I began to see that if I embraced my wife’s strengths instead of resisting them, I was better off.
As a result, now the following shift has occurred…
What I once considered to be “her being nosy”, I now view as “her asking good questions”. “Rashly judging people” has become “discerning someone’s character”.
Take a different perspective of those qualities that you sometimes find annoying or grating, and you may find that you are missing out on a valuable asset.
The romantic husband March 22, 2007
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A husband and his wife are in bed together.
She feels his hand rubbing her shoulder.
“Oh, that feels good”, she says.
His hand moves down to her breast.
“Gee, honey, that feels wonderful.”
His hand moves to her leg.
“Oh, honey, don’t stop.”
But he stops.
Perplexed, she asks him, “Why did you stop?”
He matter of factly replies, “I found the remote.”
I had to laugh at myself when I saw this because I’m sure I’ve done the same thing. Sometimes I am so focused on a task at hand that I act like this husband. My wife is dumping bricks on my head to let me know that she wants to spend some time together and my mind is wrapped up thinking about a work-related project. ”Doesn’t she know that I’m in the middle of something?” is what I’m usually thinking if I am in a good mood when this happens. “How rude and selfish of her to interrupt my flow!” is what I’m thinking if I’m in a bad mood.
What does it take to overcome these natural tendencies?
I trust God to make everything work out when I put my wife as my priority. In practical terms, this means that I believe that whatever has to happen for me to complete the project or task that I’m putting on hold to show my wife attention will come to pass. Deadlines change, crisises go away, and flashes of insight come each time I have the courage to put my wife’s needs for affection and attention ahead of my need to complete my task.
Don’t get me wrong. This was not an easy transition to make. However, I find it gets easier each time I do it because I see the results. The funny thing is that most times that my wife interrupts what I’m doing to get my attention, she’s usually the one to say that I need to get back to work. This tells me that she understands that I have a deadline and just wants to feel that she’s more important to me than meeting the deadline.
How are you treating your “body”? March 21, 2007
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What rights over our wives bodies do we have as husbands?
Here’s an article, “Godly Husbands: How are you treating your ’body’” that takes the position that if according to Scripture our wife’s body is ours, AND we are to love our neighbor, that means that there are certain times that we are going to have to choose not to exercise our ownership for the good of our wives.
We have to be more understanding and patient when our wives are tired and not in the mood. How difficult is it for you to put aside your desire for your wife and stop to think about how she feels?
It’s not an easy thing for me to do. Being a “microwave”, it doesn’t take much for me to be ready to go. However, my wife is a “crockpot” so it takes her a longer time and a lot more prepartion to get her in the mood.
How do I deal with this to keep from getting frustrated?
The wrong way I deal with it is to get upset and impatient. I usually know when I’m taking this route when I find myself flipping my back to her and moving away.
The better way I deal with it is to ask her about her day so I can get an appreciation for what she’s been through. I also do things she likes such as rubbing her feet, scratching her back, massaging her shoulders, or just plain cuddling her. It’s funny how these little things so often loosen her up. Although I can’t say that it works every time, even when it doesn’t I feel less frustrated.
Gentlemen, let’s start taking better care of our “body”.
